About This Blog
This blog brings together psychological knowledge and lived experience. In the psychoeducational articles, I share insights into emotions, relationships, the body and nervous system, complex trauma, and inner processes of healing and growth.
Notes to Grow is a collection of personal essays about my own life - about how I meet life as it unfolds, what it touches within me, and how I learn, grow, and heal through it. These essays are especially close to my heart because it takes courage to show myself with such openness and honesty. Through them, I also hope to invite you to find your own way of showing who you are.
The tags beneath each article image tell you what kind of piece you are about to read.
Take what inspires you - and let go of the rest.
You’re Not Here to Decide Who You Are— You’re Here to Remember
A quote from The Matrix invites a radical shift in perspective: What if your path wasn’t meant to be decided—but remembered? This post explores the illusion of control, the role of pain, and the truth that arises when you stop trying to force it.
Healing the Mother Within – A Personal Journey through Shame, Trauma, and Transformation
What happens when we suddenly recognize ourselves in the behavior of our parents?
This is a personal essay about intergenerational cycles of pain, emotional patterns, the illusion of helplessness — and the strength we find in honest self-encounter.
When my best friend said to me, “Lisa, it’s okay to feel miserable — but if you don’t take action, it won’t get better,” it hit me straight in the heart.
I realized I was caught in the very same pattern I had been blaming my mother for all these years.
This piece explores that cycle: pain, withdrawal, overwhelm, overdrive, breakdown — and back again.
And how we can begin to interrupt it.
By recognizing our deepest beliefs. By accepting what was. And by taking small steps — out of victimhood and into responsibility, compassion, and dignity.
In the end, it’s not about being rescued.
It’s about learning to acknowledge ourselves.

